Saturday, February 25, 2006

Insecurity: Is that you?

Insecurity: Is that you?
Not sure about something? Are you doubtful at every turn about your life? Well you’re not alone, you have a chronic problem that has effected many people for one reason or another. You may be suffering from what is commonly known as insecurity.

My view on insecurity is a mind trauma that has a way of having you think one way when you know it may not be true.

Insecurity can even be classified as a form of paranoia. An insecure person wants stability and a foundation where he or she has some type of control over something in their life. If you were looking to find an insecure person or try to diagnose insecurity, just look at your relationships or whatever has your losing your mind. If you didn’t know arguments start and finish with insecurities. For example: Divorces, domestic violence, sexual abuse, self-esteem and having lack of confidence have a lot to do with insecurities. The mind has a way of playing tricks when the enemy is involved in everyday life. I was one of those insecure people and still haven't been able to totally rid it of my fragile system. The only way to get rid of insecurity is to build the mind with the mindset that I have this internal mechanism inside of me called, trust. Trust is the only thing that can defeat insecurities in a normal relationship. You must trust and love your self enough to know that you are strong and you are worth something in this thing called life. Everyday you may hear a story on television that a Hollywood star has gotten a divorce after a short marriage. Even the so-called stars have insecurities. It doesn’t matter how much money and fame they have. People have to function together. You can function with this and realize you wasted a lot of time having negative thoughts and assuming something with out the hard facts. Here is the solution if you are the one who may have this in your relationship. Compromise and open up to your significant other and you may see all types of avenues open up because of a simple conversations. Keep god as that third link to keep your relationship together. When the ego becomes your focal point of your relationship to benefit you or to satisfy you, then the purpose of why you came together in union will be doomed to fail. The same accusations that you may have made because of your insecurities may force the other person to do what you said they were guilty of.

That tiny word ego has impacted us in such a way that people will tell you that they don't have one. Sure we all do, denial is the cousin of insecurity. When a relationship has gone awry, then God was edged out of the process and you began to grasp for the control you never had. You can only control your self, not other people. We must embrace other folks so the love can continue to have that flame that once burned brightly.

My definition for ego is edging God out, plain and simple. We will never totally get rid of our insecurities but we can contain them to a point that it can actually be a good thing and work for us. Insecurity is that human emotion that people don't really discuss. You hear about jealousy and envy but insecurity is right in there. Make your insecurities work for you and re-define it as (In-Secure-I Be). We you be insecure in your life? I hope so because time will not always be on your side and second chances don’t always come.

1 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

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